Finishing Schools, dear readers– they are popping up everywhere. Groups of people meeting to hold each other accountable and help each other with the goals most important to them. It’s spreading.
Indeed, the following cities around the US are having their first meeting this month:
- Austin, TX — Nov 2
- Albuquerque, NM — Nov 4
- Boston, MA (after a false start last month) — Nov 19, 20, or 21 (TBD)
If you’re interested in attending any of these, give me a holler. If you want to start one in your city, same deal. It’s an exciting time to be working on your goals.
We’ll be back to your regular scheduled programming soon. Of course, tomorrow’s the 2-year anniversary of the Seattle Finishing School, so it may be few days
All the best,
Almost two years ago, I went to Seattle’s Zig Zag Cafe with a handful of friends, acquaintances, and strangers on a Wednesday night to discuss the things we most wanted to do in life.
It was a group we called The Finishing School, and we’ve been meeting almost every month since to discuss what progress we’ve made on our life goals. Whether it’s learning the cello, meeting a personal hero, or losing 15 pounds, we hold each other accountable and help each other however we can.
In fact, that’s really what the Finishing School is– an accountability group for your life goals. And given enough interest, I’d like to start one in Boston, Massachusetts when I visit next week.
Here are the details:
Monday, October 8th
Location TBD in Boston/Cambridge
If this sounds interesting to you, let me know– I’ll make sure to include you.
Personally, I love the Finishing School. We’ve grown to be great friends and accomplished some really cool goals– goals like writing a novel, climbing Kilimanjaro, and yes, we even had two members whose goals included “fall in love and get married” fall in love. And get married. To each other.
If you want to join the Finishing School starting in Boston, MA, contact me.
Patrick Rhone, author of Enough and Mac Minimal, talked about the Finishing School in his most recent podcast. It was interesting hearing his thought process in deciding to start a Minneapolis/St. Paul Finishing School. The sentiment that stuck with him the most was this: something worth doing at all is worth starting tonight.
Boris Taratutin, an engineering student in Massachusetts, saw my guest post about living life like an experiment at The Art of Manliness and is getting together with a group of his friends to talk about self-reflection behavior changing. Their first tenet is based around this question: what’s the smallest step I can take now?
Running a marathon. Learning to rock climb. Reading for self-education. Learning Krav Maga. The experiences that led me to start this blog happened only because of this question: how do I start tonight?
I used to write a lot of music. I wasn’t majoring in music– heck, I wasn’t even in college when I learned, so I had to find other resources to teach myself– websites, books, scores, any mentor who would listen to a green 16-year old’s stabs at polyphony. I ended up learning a lot from a centuries-old book called The Study of Counterpoint. It turns out it was the same text the young Beethoven studied. I still have highlighted a piece of advice from Read More
I told the story earlier of one of the best summers of my life. It was that awesome because I (somewhat inadvertently) followed three simple steps.
- Make a list of your life goals
- Circle the ones you could start working on tomorrow
- Start tonight
“Starting tomorrow” is the enemy. It was the whole reason I hadn’t started in decades. Years of starting to train for a marathon tomorrow meant never starting to train for a marathon.
I didn’t want to go for a run that night, but I had to start. So instead, I e-mailed my friends who had run marathons: “What’s the shortest training program you know of for first-time marathoners?” I didn’t want to be a chronic distance runner; I wanted to check an item off of a list.
The winner was an 18-week program from an old professor of mine. I went online to look at the date of the NYC marathon, and counted back 17 weeks, 5 days to figure out when I’d have to run my first training run.
At least the universe was conspiring with me (albeit in an uncomfortably overt way). Starting is half the battle, and I won half the battle right there. I got up and ran five kilometers. Four and a half months later, I went to NYC to run forty-two kilometers. Read More
Here’s a question worth asking yourself:
If you never had to work another day in your life, and money was no object, what would you do?
I heard that question senior year of college. I put the book I was reading down and glanced blankly at the ceiling. That night I gave my imagination 10 million dollars, 80 years, and made the list. Though it was phrased differently, I realized I had essentially created a list of life goals.
The first funny realization I had about my list was that despite the prompt, most things on the list didn’t require a million dollars to start doing– not even close.
- Run the NYC marathon
- Learn Krav Maga
- Publish a book
To be fair, some things would have required some extra capital.
- Go shark fishing in Africa
- Be a researcher in Antarctica for a few months
- Become a BASE jumper
A few months after making my list, I found myself with roughly six weeks of free time. After wasting two days refreshing facebook and reading useless blogs, I found the folded-up piece of paper with the list, circled the ones I could start doing tomorrow, and went to it.
Each week for the rest of the summer, I rock climbed twice, ran three times in training for the NYC marathon, and took four Krav Maga lessons. I read every day. My personal training in life goals accomplishment required very little money at all (the Krav gym gave me a massive discount), but I was filling my schedule with the things I would freely choose to do had I infinite resources.
That was one of the best summers of my life. It was refreshing and optimistic. I know why– it’s because I did those things which built me up, which gave me energy– the things I deemed more worth doing than anything else. The lessons I took from that summer ended up shaping the next year of my life, and giving me an idea that I believe should have existed long ago (that will be covered soon).
Twelve months later, I realize I have started taking my goals in life seriously. And I’m trying to help others do the same. To those ends, I’ve created this blog.
I don’t know exactly what I will post here, but I promise to put my best foot forward. If you want to join me, write down your list– call it your bucket list, your bohemian millionaire list, your bargain with death, I don’t care– but write it down and read on. Everything in the world will conspire to raze the dreams you don’t take seriously. But put your foot in the door. Make the list and make a brief commitment– make it right now, because it’s time to start taking your dreams very seriously.