This post is about a light-weight piece of software I wrote to help track a few things about me I’m interested in monitoring. It’s freely available (to use and modify) here.
This is a story. One time, I wanted to get a lot better at pull-ups. I wanted to be a good rock climber and to have a lot of upper-body strength, and pull-ups were one of the best exercises I could do. So I thought about how I could do a lot of pull-ups– there was, after all, no bar in my house or office from which I could do the exercise. An idea came to me: go across the street to the park, and each night, practice doing pull-ups there.
This was not a good idea. That should be apparent if you’ve ever tried any self-motivated exercise regimen. All I was relying on was my willpower to achieve a long-term goal. I didn’t do anything differently except expect that I would make it to the park. Every night, even when it was dark and rainy and sometimes cold, and I would magically muster up some willpower and go and do the pull-ups.
I think I went once. Complete failure.
Now this story has a happy ending. It’s not about me finding it within myself to walk across the street every night. No, it’s when I realized that the only thing that could convince me to do pull-ups was to make it dead simple. I would buy a pull-up bar, but only if it could fit in the door of my kitchen, bedroom, or office. There was no other place I would see it frequently enough to just stop and do pull-ups. It had to be visible. It had to be right in my face. It had to be zero extra work.
The result: I’ve more than doubled the number of pull-ups I can do to 15, and still improving.
The lesson: if you’re going to change something in your life, Read More
The last month, I’ve been just about incommunicado. There’s a good reason for this– I promise. Four weeks ago, I told my boss I was leaving Microsoft. The next two weeks, I prepared for my departure, making sure all of my areas of responsibility were in good shape before I took off, and then, two weeks ago, I went in to the office one last time.
I’m now a freelance user experience designer. What’s a UX designer? Someone who makes websites and apps easy to use. Ergonomics of the mind.
But that’s not what I’m writing to talk about. I’m writing to talk about being a freelancer, lions, and my theme for 2013– “the lion in the wild”.
I’ve never been a freelancer. For the last 2.5 years, I’ve had a full-time job. I’ve been hand-fed a nice paycheck every 2 weeks– more money than anyone my age should be allowed to make, I half-seriously think. Excellent benefits. But it’s not without a cost. At an ultra-large company, things move slowly. Everyone knows this. Layers of people to ask for permission; battalions to argue against anything new. Bureaucracy. You can receive non-negotiable instructions changing your day-to-day life from people you’ve never met, never even seen in person. They don’t know you either. They don’t know what you’re good at, bad at, or want to learn.
They can’t though. They literally have no time to do so– there are thousands of such people they are responsible for managing.
The whole situation– that of unparalleled comfort yet unnaturally Read More
No one’s perfect, and while for the most part our various failings are viewed as obstacles to us achieving our goals, I want to take a different viewpoint here: each of us has many vices that can actually help us achieve our goals.
I think this sounds weird to say, so here are examples.
Laziness over Gluttony
I can resist any temptation until I can see it. And when I see food– it doesn’t matter how much plaque it will dump in my heart; it doesn’t matter how much fat it’ll layer over my rock-solid abs– if I have room in my stomach, I will probably eat it.
This is not good. But there’s a catch. See, I rarely get hungry for sweets, pastries, or beer on my own. 99% of the time, my stomach will be perfectly satisfied with whatever I give it (but not too many vegetables, k?– doctor’s orders). So the problem is not eating junkfood when I’m hungry for junkfood– it’s eating junkfood when I see junkfood.
Therefore, the solution is Read More
In the two years that I’ve been running The Finishing School and preaching the gospel of Getting Out There and Doing Stuff, I’ve talked to a lot of people who don’t understand why they should have life goals.
Why go out of your way to list these arbitrary and random things? Why bother trying to achieve something that doesn’t directly benefit you?
Isn’t that a first-world luxury? Something you can only think about because you’re satiated to boredom? Some people are starving, and you’re checking off continents and crap just because you can?
Having a list of life goals is not about arbitrary timesinks. Nor is it about boredom and privilege.
Having a list of life goals– and, more importantly, doing them– is about something totally different. It’s about Read More